Mahallah Ali Ibn Abi Talib :: The Leading Mahallah in IIUM :: International Islamic University Malaysia

  • 02:04:24 am on May 28, 2007 | 5

    What is a gentleman? The meaning itself has too many definitions that require us to explore. For instance, woman wants their husband or their boyfriend to be a gentleman because in their mind, a gentleman is a responsible person. While the society defines a gentleman is the one who knows social etiquette and possess good manner.

    To be a gentleman is not a must, but it is an option whether you want to be or not. Not all guys can be called as ‘gentleman’ because there are numerous reasons why a person should regain that title. Here are several factors that indicate how importance the title as ‘gentleman’ to the man.

    As a matter of fact, most women observe a man on how would they respect their opposite gender and other people generally. Unfortunately, most men ignore good social etiquette in dealing with the women.

    If you are neither macho nor handsome, your manners such as how you treat the women and taking care of other people would be sufficient enough to make the women could not take their eyes of you. This is the power reflects from individual manners.

    A gentleman should also have the ability to interact with other people that they just met. A gentleman knows how to present himself in front of the public. They are not scared, shaking or nervous. A gentleman always knows how to put himself in many different societies because he has a good grasp on how to communicate with other people near him.

    A gentleman is a great difference between a boy and an adult. When a boy teenager is being trained and shaped by his parents to have the gentleman’s characteristics, we could see the result as he would act as a mature person and bring a pleasant environment to us although he is still a teenager.

    In fact, to be a gentleman is a towering personality that measures a person whether he possesses such a high and excellent manners in his live. Malaysia Prime Minister, Datuk Seri Abdullah Ahmad Badawi stressed on the importance of having politeness in each and every Malaysian people.

    Either directly or indirectly, a gentleman who reflects good characters already fulfilled what the Malaysian government wants. And all guys out there, do you want to be a gentleman? The choice is yours!

     

Comments

  • forbiddensoul 3:50 am on May 29, 2007 | # | Reply

    Normally, a gentleman won’t tell people that he’s a gentleman. It can only be proven by his actions.
    A gentleman would respect women as human beings.
    A gentleman won’t feel that he’s greater than others.
    A true gentleman won’t criticize to make other people fall.
    A gentlemen would not feel hesitate to help carry the woman’s bag.
    A true gentleman won’t be stingy and ask his girl to pay for her own.
    A true gentleman won’t have a BIG mouth.
    Also, a gentleman won’t bother and ask about the woman’s money.
    If not…whoooaaaa! That is so not gentleman, dude! We don’t call guys with such bad qualities as gentlemen, but Dumb Dummies…those who seek for extra attentions!
    So, still dare to call yourself a gentleman?

  • melania murphy 4:09 am on May 29, 2007 | # | Reply

    It’s funny when a guy bought a book on “How To Be A Gentleman” so that he feels he could be a real gentleman, but he treats his girl badly. That guy is actually making fool of himself. Shame on him!

  • Str8_gurl 9:33 am on June 4, 2007 | # | Reply

    Is the writer himself a gentleman? Don’t speak the things u do not do at all..

  • JULIANA ALI 4:23 am on August 15, 2007 | # | Reply

    ‘gentleman’ from the Islamic perspective please ! If you changed the title to ‘The Ideal Muslim’ and had the Qur’an and Sunnah as your source of reference that would make more sense. Its a major offense to use ‘gentleman’ as we’ve been cultured to use this term or concept to decribe the ideal guy. But since we’ve a better option which is the ‘ideal Muslim’, than why not discuss this concept rather than turning to Western terminologies like ‘gentleman’. Our conscious and unconscious mind and personal comprehension will derive more Western thoughts and ideas when we use ‘gentleman’.

    Anyway, good start for a discussion… we need more of this !

  • JULIANA ALI 4:25 am on August 15, 2007 | # | Reply

    ‘gentleman’ from the Islamic perspective please ! If you changed the title to ‘The Ideal Muslim’ and had the Qur’an and Sunnah as your source of reference that would make more sense. Its not an ethically major offense to use ‘gentleman’ as we’ve been cultured to use this term or concept to decribe the ideal guy. But since we’ve a better option which is the ‘ideal Muslim’, than why not discuss this concept rather than turning to Western terminologies like ‘gentleman’. Our conscious and unconscious mind and personal comprehension will derive more Western thoughts and ideas when we use ‘gentleman’.

    Anyway, good start for a discussion… we need more of this !

    -missJeweLz-

    *correction to the 3rd line…. “”not an ethically major offense*


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